Tips for dating a recovering alcoholic
explains, “experts almost universally advise against making any major changes in your life in the first year of sobriety-and that includes dating and/or jumping into a new relationship, or ending an existing relationship or marriage.” This rule isn’t supposed to depress you; it’s supposed to protect you and your recovery.
It ensures that you get a solid emotional and healthy physical footing before putting yourself through a huge change. There is no need for a stressful distraction in your first year of sobriety.
If they are in recovery, how long have they stayed sober?
Are they actively working a program of recovery (e.g., participating in self-help support meetings, counseling or an aftercare program)?
Lighthearted dating can be fun; there’s no need to rush it right away. And it’s true, many recovering addicts find other recovering addicts to be with because they have common ground together, a common past of pain and a struggle and of overcoming it.
This guideline is designed to protect the addict as well as the people they might date.
If they don’t want to deal with this type of situation, don’t take it personally. The worst things you can do is to avoid questions or lie about why you don’t drink. It’s best to just get it all out there and let fate take its course. It is possible for recovering addicts and alcoholics to be in successful, happy marriages and relationships if they can learn from past mistakes and not rush into anything too quickly.
There is an entire world out there with endless possibilities, including friendships, marriage, children, and more.
If you find someone who is a moderate drinker, but does not consider alcohol a major part of their lives, it could be a good fit for the both of you. It’s best to be honest with your partner about who you are, where you are in recovery, and what your limitations are.
The other person will have no problem with the fact that you don’t drink, and you probably won’t feel stressed out or threatened by their casual drinking. Let them know that meetings are important to you, that staying sober is a priority, and explain how it will make you a better partner in the relationship.Life will be stressful enough the first few months after getting sober, and a relationship can increase that stress. Alcoholics and addicts tend to act on our emotions, which includes our loneliness.